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A breakup is a difficult thing to deal with, and it is hard on you and your ex. There are a various number of emotions and feelings that you feel and at times you will feel as if you are never going to be okay. You will go through the same emotions that those that deal with a death. It can go from tears one minute to fear the next, maybe even anger will rear its ugly head. You will have tap into a great deal of personal strength and the act of surving a breakup will feel as if you are on an emotional roller-coaster ride. Surviving this breakup may seem as if it has left a big void in your chest.

A void that you cannot easily fill with anything, it is that painful and difficult to handle. What you should consider, however, is that you are not the first couple to break up and you will not be the last. You should take solace in that you and your partner will survive and will be moving forward.

When you are faced with the task of trying to surviving a breakup, there are a number of tips which will lead you towards feeling better and moving on. The first step is do not bottle up the pain. Going through life without experiencing pain is not something any of us can do. Its part of life. Keep in mind that it is normal to feel this pain, a
breakup of a relationship like I said earlier, is no different than the emotions we deal with the death of a loved one.

Realize you will feel hurt and and give yourself permission to morn the loss, it is okay to break down a little and cry as needed. It may help if you sit down and write out what your feeling, you should scream when you feel like screaming (just do not scream at or act out towards other family members, such as your children), do whatever is needed to let all of the pain out and move on. Keep in mind it may takes days of crying, before you move onto the anger stage, once you reach anger you are on your way to acceptance and then healing.

Once you have reached a clear and calm state, you are now ready to evaluate things and try and find out where you and your partner are in the relationship. Being able to review where you are in terms of the breakup will allow you to make the right decision. Unfortunely, you more than likely will find that the relationship is truly over. Coming to terms with this reality is something that you and your ex partner needs to do together. Once you are at terms with things, you both will be ready to take the next step.

When the decision has been made and you have agreed to end the relationship, you and your ex are going to faced with the process of removing all things that overlaps in your lives. This can include property that you two have exchanged and are left at the other’s home. This type of negotiation and separation is a healthy step in the breakup to ensure that
nothing is left as a reminder of the other that can cause an emotional landmine later on in your lives.

After the both of you have completely separated, and have retreived your personal belongings, then the next step is something many roll their eyes at, but I highly recommend that you perform a finalizing ritual. Light a candel, pore a glass of wine or pop
open a beer and prepare yourself for this is a symbolic event. This is private and personal and will involve letting an effigy of your ex go, via destroying it or some other task. For example, you could burn one of their letters, their photos,
throw away anything that belongs to them or reminds you of him/her, their leftovers, and make sure you take their number out of your cell phone, and delete their files off your computer and so on. This symbolic gesture is for your benefit. It will be a cleansing of your heart and your soul and will be the last gesture in the relationship that will help
you take the step foward, to a new you, a new life a new journey.

Please remember to use close friends and family or whatever support that is available to you. Keep in mind that your loved ones can provide an emotional support net for you. Keep in mind that even though you have done everything you could to help feel better and soften the blow of a break up, you will have good days and bad days and you will still
face turbulence. As a result you will need all of the help you can get as you are surviving a breakup.

Samantha B. Powers is the CEO and relationship expert that many turn to daily for help and support needed to find their way back after a breakup.